Singularity

“Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.” ― Margaret Mead

Looking up the word singularity and you find many definitions. The Wiktionary has the following five:

1.    the state of being singular, distinct, peculiar, uncommon or unusual
2.    a point where all parallel lines meet
3.    a point where a measured variable reaches unmeasurable or infinite value
4.    (mathematics) the value or range of values of a function for which a derivative does not exist
5.    (physics) a point or region in spacetime in which gravitational forces cause matter to have an infinite density; associated with Black Holes

Uniqueness, it seems, has an inherent divergence as well as convergence. The more I perceive the world as dubious the more I desire clarity and distinction. Practicing yin yoga and studying Taoism help cultivate the ability to see the paradox in every paradigm. They improve my understanding of the body's mechanical dynamic and clarify my physical routine. To be singular is to peel away the unnecessary and get in touch with the bare essentials. Instead of spending excessive time watching and clicking, do more listening and feeling. Replace spending a few seconds with each of a thousand friends online with an extended face to face time with one friend. Download nothing and divulge in a few things that aren't selling you a thousand other things. I share, tag and like when things go well. When things go wild I simplify and focus.

Some people have a bullshit radar. I have a strong predilection for preventing shitty outcomes and a radar for upcoming bullshits. Sure, there're things you cannot avoid, but joining craziness isn't going to make you more sane. Being unambiguous about your role in the world and having a clear boundary within different types of relationship is important anytime and especially during the time of extreme equivocacy and post-fact. If a person has no role in my physical reality it doesn't mean that he isn't real to me. But I will not answer to anything he imposes on me. This frees him to pursuit other (possibly real) connections and allows me to focus on the relationships that matter to my physicality. Embrace your individuation. Celebrate wholeness through the integration of bodily needs and heartfelt intention. Here are how I attempt to practice singularity:

1. Minimize ambiguity in relationships
2. Communicate feelings lucidly
3. Minimize wasteful communication
4. Minimize wasteful action
5. Indulge in simplicity
6. Savor in-the-moment sensory feast
7. Do what I love and love what I do
8. Be with the people I love and love the people I am with